2020 is in four months, don’t let anybody waste your time.
Sadly I’m not a mind reader. I truthfully can’t read what the person I’m dating is thinking, if I could, I would have saved heaps of time. My time is beyond precious to lose on time wasters.
One thing that should be done when going into dating, is to be fearless. To be fearless is to except that when dating, not all situations will work out. That is just to be expected.
Another element that is crucial is to guard your heart. Most people tend to forget who they are in a relationship and give 100% to a relationship, and if the person you’re dating is dishonest and not upfront about the situation, this can have a devasting impact on your character and whole general well being. I believe it is best to hold back in a relationship to protect one’s own sanity.
In a relationship I tend to get carried away and that can be dangerous.
As mentioned in my previous blog post, you just don’t recognise what the other person is thinking, and will never know the individual’s intentions. We think we may know what another person is feeling but it’s not everything that they will tell you.
Let me be quite frank with you guys here. I don’t jump into a relationship with just anybody, and I don’t give my time to just anybody unless I perceive the other person, to be the right person.
I was dating someone, and well it just didn’t work out. This seriously knocked my confidence and I was constantly doubting myself as a person. I was continuously thinking if I had done anything wrong. I felt like I didn’t look a certain way, and I had to change everything about myself to make the other person like me. In all reality, I was commited to the relationship, but the other person’s mind was not in the relationship. Like I said I’m not a mind reader, not everyone you date is suitable for you. That is just the reality of the matter.
Relationships are not for the faint of heart, they’re for people who are mature enough to understand that you’re giving your precious time, and letting the other person into your world; Sharing secrets that maybe you have decided to not tell anyone else before…
Relationships tend to come across as very selfish, often at times, people forget that it’s not all about themselves, they have to take into accountabilty anothers emotions, and they have to learn to make room for another person, if they are truly ready to persue another person.
This is why I say guard your heart because if I had been more guarded, I would have still contained my peace of mind.
In the bible this is what it says about guarding your heart in Proverbs 4:23:
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
If I had guarded my heart in the first place, I would have thought more with my mind and less with my heart. The heart is important because this vessel pumps blood around the body and into the brain, I believe the heart contains all your emotions, when all emotions from the heart are given to one person, then you’ve basically given parts of yourself away that you can never gain back, this person now knows all your secrets.
I just want everyone to understand that there is nothing wrong with being single, it allows you to achieve your goals, and to work on being your best possible self that you can be. Singleness gives you that peace of mind to know that the person you’re dating is not being mischevious.
Singleness should be our time to mature and to understand what we really want.
Here’s a quote that I found that I like so much.
‘A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.’
By Mandy Hale.